Politics get into every aspect of our lives. Labelling of our family types is not exempt.
While reading on a message board earlier this week, I came across a post that pointed out to a previous poster that the term “bio” had negative connotations and was frowned upon. Really? I’ve been referring to the children I’ve given birth to as “bio” kids for awhile. I like the sound of the word. I think it is descriptive and accurate.
So, if not bio, what? “Blood?” Yuck! “Natural?” All kids are natural. How about “my children from my previous relationship/marriage” or even more cumbersome and obnoxious, “my children with _______.” No thanks!
Oh, I know! I should just say “my” kids and “his” kids. I really don’t like that at all. It removes our unity and puts separation in our family.
I have been aware for some time that “step” is not favored. I’ve tried out “bonus,” which has a nice ring to it and I am comfortable using it. But when talking to other people, will they understand me if I talk about my bonus daughters? Probably not, unless they have been reading about blended families lately.
So what do we do? Define ourselves and label ourselves as we like. 🙂